...means you hear all sorts of crap going on with the neighbours.
Have a real tree huggy mommy living next door with her 3 young daughters. She is recently separated, doing her best to work full time and bring up girls aged 3, 6, and 7. I really identify with her having raised my girls alone and at times really struggling with it.
So was just sitting out there, in the dark and rain, and all that represents winter in the UK, and there were major tantrums coming from next-door bathroom. It is 'tea/bath/bed after all! The tantrum from little M crescendo'd to fever pitch before there was shouting, door slamming and swearing from Tree Hugger Mom, (THM), deathly silence and then little M wailing for all she was worth, but not just crying, real screams.
I just got to thinking, as my cigarette burned low - in the moment have I done the same thing too, with no thought as to the consequences for my honeys? I faced them square on, interrupting Dr. Who
Me: "Have I ever hurt you or made you feel scared of me"?
Em: "No never Mum, I love you, and you are great at being my Mum".
Boo: "Only when you're tired but you do so much better at this Mummy stuff with a glass of wine inside you"!
I'm sure there is a message in there somewhere!
Thursday, January 31, 2008
Garden Time At My Gaff...
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3 hollered here:
A good mother we know you are ... I have always felt embarrassed for both myself and the other one who was doing the screaming at children ... also afraid that the screamer might lose it and hurt the child(ren).
The only time I have ever enjoyed the neighbor's noises was during the 18 months that I had to live in an apartment after I had to leave my marriage ... the couple above me would ocassionaly be very loud in bed ... and the bed squeaked rather loudly LOL
Think about it; what do you remember of your own childhood? I don't know about you, but all the subtle messages from my parents were completely lost on me. Only when my father truly yelled did I get the message. And, as an adult and parent myself, I can certainly understand why they did what they did.
Parenting is difficult for sure. Having a 12 y.o. and a 15 y.o. my rational mind is tested hourly.
I am sure you are doing the best you can, and it is likely better than most.
The only difference is that as a kid I NEVER, ever yelled back at my parents!
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